Dear Son, You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose Wisely.
The next 5 years of your life are critical in the development of your character, relationships, and reputation. The people you spend time with will play a major role.
I have been blessed with great friends and associates throughout my life. During my high school and college years, God provided protection and guidance through a group of friends and roommates. A few names come to mind: John, Jud, Herbert, Scott, Ward, Bob and Jeff. I would not be who I am today without their influence.
C. S. Lewis said, “The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” Surround yourself with people who build you spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically. “As iron sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend,” Proverbs 27:17 (NLT).
The Bible has much to say about the people that we spend time with. Here are a few verses to help you choose wisely:
- “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers.” Psalm 1:1 (NIV)
- “Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.” Proverbs 13:20 (MSG)
- “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
- “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33 (NLV)
I am not saying that we should never associate with people that are not of the highest character (please excuse the triple negative). I am saying we must be cautious of the amount of time spent and the level of connection shared. I love George Washington’s advice, “Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.”
Who are the 5 people you are spending the most time with? Is it a wise investment?