Dear Son, Words of Wisdom #16

dear son

Dear Son, You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Choose Wisely.

The next 5 years of your life are critical in the development of your character, relationships, and reputation.  The people you spend time with will play a major role.

I have been blessed with great friends and associates throughout my life. During my high school and college years, God provided protection and guidance through a group of friends and roommates. A few names come to mind: John, Jud, Herbert, Scott, Ward, Bob and Jeff. I would not be who I am today without their influence.

C. S. Lewis said, “The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” Surround yourself with people who build you spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically.  “As iron sharpens iron, a friend sharpens a friend,” Proverbs 27:17 (NLT).

The Bible has much to say about the people that we spend time with. Here are a few verses to help you choose wisely:

  • “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers.”  Psalm 1:1 (NIV)
  • “Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.”  Proverbs 13:20 (MSG)
  • “The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.”  Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
  • “Bad company corrupts good character.”  1 Corinthians 15:33 (NLV)

I am not saying that we should never associate with people that are not of the highest character (please excuse the triple negative). I am saying we must be cautious of the amount of time spent and the level of connection shared. I love George Washington’s advice, “Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.”

Who are the 5 people you are spending the most time with? Is it a wise investment?

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