Dear Son, Words of Wisdom #15

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Dear Son, Your reputation is priceless. Protect it!
Love, Dad

“A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches.”  Proverbs 22:1 (NKJV)

Your reputation and name are inseparable. A short list of names demonstrates this fact, both good and bad: Ronald Reagan, Anthony Weiner, Tim Tebow, Aaron Hernandez, Paula Dean, Abraham Lincoln, Hitler, and Jesus. Each name conjures images of either a sterling or tarnished reputation.

A reputation takes a lifetime to build, but it can be destroyed in seconds. Therefore, you must protect it with vigilance. In recent years, one’s reputation is growing more difficult to protect due to two factors: increasing temptations and social media. You are not only being bombarded by an increasing assortment and access to temptations, it is also easier to get caught and published for the world to see for all digital eternity.

Reputation Protection Plan

  • Surround yourself with good people.
  • Be careful where you are. If you find yourself in a compromising situation, look for the escape and go. “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 (ESV)
  • Be careful what you are looking at and filling your mind with. Images lead to thoughts and thoughts can lead to actions.

If you fall, seek the forgiveness of God and any others involved. Remember, God will forgive, but people will find it difficult to forget.

If you damage your reputation, repair it with humility and diligence.

What do you want people to think when they hear your name?

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Dear Son, Words of Wisdom #14

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Dear Son,
“Thank You” are two of the most powerful words you can say.
Love, Dad

“Say thank you,” were words your heard from your mother and I many times while you were growing up. We were especially vigilant around Christmas and Birthdays. We reminded you several times before we arrived at the gift exchange. You ripped open the colorful paper, full of anticipation to see what amazing wonders awaited, only to be greeted by a 3-pack of underwear. We gave you the look. You took a deep breath and somewhat convincingly said, ‘Thank you.”

Saying “Thank You” is not always natural or easy – but it is always powerful. Showing gratitude has a deep impact on the receiver of the “Thank You”. They feel appreciated, loved, respected – and they will be twice as likely to continue the activity that prompted the “Thank You”. Being grateful is also very beneficial to your own health and well being. Psychological studies have demonstrated this “Gratitude Effect”.  Click here to watch an enlightening video by Derek Halpern about the power of “Thank You”

pt thank youHere is a super powerful secret:  “Thank You” notes are like a “Thank You” on steroids with lasers strapped to its back. It is a vanishing art that will not go unnoticed. In fact, I have a “Thank You” note you gave me on a special shelf in my office.

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Also remember to thank God for all of the blessings in your life. God is the true source. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights.” James 1:17(NIV)

What would today look like if you only had what you thanked God for yesterday?

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Dear Son, Words of Wisdom #13

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Dear Son,
Don’t wait for someone to tell you what to do…find it.

I did not discover this secret to success in a business class or book. I discovered it in a funeral home.

I had the privilege to work and live in a funeral home the summer after graduating from college. I mowed the grass, greeted people and moved a few dead bodies (that may sound cold, but so were the bodies). I had low expectations for the job. I was just killing time until I found my career. I was wrong. I had much to learn, and the funeral home was a great place to do it.

I did what I was told  – nothing more – nothing less.
“Cut the grass.” I cut the grass then waited.
“Blow off the sidewalks.” I blew them spotless then sat down and waited.
“Help me move this body.” I moved the body, washed my hands, then waited.
I was dong my job and feeling good about myself.

After a couple weeks, the funeral director came to me and said, “You are wearing me out.” I was shocked. I was a college graduate and was doing everything they asked, how could there be a problem. He continued, “I am tired of having to find stuff for you to do all day. You need to look around…walk around…there is stuff that needs to be done everywhere.”

It was like a light bulb turned on in my head. In all my years of working in restaurants and going to school, no one shared this amazing wisdom with me. I put it into practice, and it has given me great advantages over those that sit around and wait to be told what to do.

Do what you are told to do with excellence – plus look around and find things that need to be done. You will be noticed, appreciated and rewarded with greater opportunities.

One side note: when you find something to do, make sure to let them know and get approval before you do it.

“Take a lesson from the ant, you who love leisure and ease.
Observe how it works, and dare to be just as wise. 
It has no boss, no one laying down the law or telling it what to do,
Yet it gathers its food through summer and takes what it needs from the harvest.”
Proverbs 6:6-8 (The Voice)

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Dear Son, Words of Wisdom #12

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Dear Son,
Seek truth. Speak truth. Love, Dad

In a world filled with lies and spin, the value of truth is ever increasing. David described our society well when he wrote, “You love evil more than good and lies more than truth.”(Psalms 52:3)

Your mother and I have made truth a high priority in our home. We also placed you in a classical, Christian school with the mission of teaching you to seek God’s truth. As you grow older, it will be up to you to put this into practice.

Jesus said, “You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Truth leads to freedom. Lies and spin lead to a lack of trust, confusion, complications, fear and bondage.

Seek truth about God, yourself and others.  

Truth about God is found in the Bible and in the world around us. Read the Bible and pray the Holy Spirit will guide you into all truth.

Examine yourself. Self-deception is an easy trap. As St. Augustine wrote in Confessions, “Man’s love of truth is such that when he loves something that is not the truth, he pretends to himself that what he loves is the truth, and because he hates to be wrong, he will not allow himself to be convinced that he is deceiving himself. So he hates the real truth for the sake of what he takes to his heart in its place.”

Seek truth about others. Do not form an opinion about others to quickly. Do not automatically believe the word of others without proper investigation and consideration. Things are not always as they seem.

Speak truth.

God has a very high opinion of speaking truth and a very low opinion of lying. Proverbs 12:19 reads, “Truthful words stand the test of time, but lies are soon exposed.” Proverbs 6 is a list of seven things God hates and two of them are speaking lies.

Speaking truth is practical and leads to success. I have seen many lives destroyed through the lies they have told. As Sir Walter Scott wrote, “O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive.” Make a practice of speaking truth. It may not seem to be the easiest choice at the moment, but truth wins in the end.

In a world suffocating in lies, truth will breathe life and freedom. Be a leader who seeks truth and speaks truth.

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Dear Son, Words of Wisdom #11

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Dear Son,
In all you do (even if it seems small or stupid), give it your all, as if you are doing it for God, not people.
Love, Dad

As you continue through school and launch out into the workplace, you will question the task and responsibilities you are given.  At times, you will feel that it is a waste of time or beneath you. You must have the proper perspective and patience.

Perspective changes everything. In order to have a proper perspective, we must understand who our boss actually is. Colossians 3:23 sheds light, “Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.”  When we understand God is our boss, it gives dignity and elevates any task.

In life, we tend to categorize activities as either spiritual or human. We imagine that going to church or on a mission trip is spiritual but doing homework or mowing grass is just human activity. When we understand all we do is for God, nothing should be viewed as small or stupid.

You will also need patience. When you are new, you will have to prove yourself. Trust is built over time. In my own career and as I manage those in my care, I find the words of Jesus to be true, “If you’re faithful in small-scale matters, you’ll be faithful with far bigger responsibilities.” Luke 16:10

Do not let your current task or responsibilities suffer while you are waiting for the big, important stuff. Meet each task with willingness, energy and creativity. It will be noticed and rewarded.

Many times we think we are ready, but there are so many lessons to learn and endurance to build. God has great things ahead of you, but you must prepare yourself for that day. I love God’s response to Jeremiah when he felt like God was not moving fast enough, “If you have raced with men on foot and they have worn you out, how can you compete with horses?” Jeremiah 12:5

Pray that God gives you the perspective and patience to become the man of God you are intended to be.

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10-Minute Bible Storyline

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In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. God spoke all things into existence: light, water, sky, land, vegetation, sun, moon, stars, fish, birds, animals, and humans. God made it all, and it was good.

God created Adam and Eve, the first man and woman, and gave them responsibility over all created things. God gave them one rule: do not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil or they would die. Adam and Eve disobeyed God and ate the forbidden fruit.

Paradise was lost as sin and death entered the world.  God’s children no longer had a perfect relationship with their Creator, but God showed grace and love in the midst of judgment. God made a promise of a future rescuer who would come and crush the head of evil.

Adam and Eve had children. One of their sons, Cain, continued the downward spiral of sin by murdering his brother Abel. Over time, people began to multiply and spread across the earth. The only problem was as people multiplied, so did sin and evil.

God decided the earth needed a fresh start. He would send a flood to wipe out all living creatures, but God chose Noah, the only righteous man, to build a large boat to rescue his family and a pair of all the animals and birds. God protected them through the flood and showed His grace and love by making a covenant (promise) with Noah and all future living creatures not to destroy the earth by flood.

People and the land began to grow and flourish again. Humanity started to forget about God and trust in themselves. Many people gathered in a city named Babel and constructed a tower to bring glory to themselves. God confused their languages and caused them to scatter and spread across the earth.

The time came for God to build a nation. God wanted a group of people to show His love and power to all the inhabitants of the earth. God made His choice and it started with an unlikely couple named Abraham and Sarah. God promised to give them many decedents, land, and to bless the world through them. God fulfilled His covenant and started to build His nation through Abraham’s son, Isaac.

The nation grew as Isaac and his wife Rebekah gave birth to Jacob and Esau. They were not the kindest of brothers, and Jacob tricked his brother into selling his favored birthright for a bowl of soup. Jacob went on to trick his father, Isaac, into giving him his final blessing. Regardless of these poor choices, God showed favor on Jacob and continued His covenant made with Abraham. Jacob had 12 sons who became the 12 tribes of Israel. One of these sons was Joseph.

Through the cruelty of his brothers and the blessing of God, Joseph was brought into a position of power in Egypt to rescue his family. God brought His people to safety and provision in Egypt, but things did not continue to go well for the people of Israel after Joseph died.

The people of Israel spent 400 years of hard slavery in Egypt. God heard their cries and sent a reluctant prince named Moses to the rescue. Moses confronted the Egyptian Pharaoh and demanded that he let the people go. God sent a series of plagues leading to their release.

God guided and protected His people through the Red Sea and into the wilderness. God gave commandments and taught His people how to worship Him through a series of instructions and the building of a Tabernacle. God led the people with a cloud by day and fire by night to begin the journey to claim the Promised Land.

Moses sent spies into the Promised Land (Canaan). Most of the spies said the land was amazing and fruitful but the people would be impossible to defeat. The people became fearful and did not trust that God could bring them the victory. God grew weary of their lack of faith and complaining and said they would have to wander in the wilderness for forty years. Only the two faithful spies, Joshua and Caleb, would enter the Promised Land with the children. Even Moses lost the right to enter the Promised Land because he failed to give God the proper credit for providing water in the wilderness.

After the death of Moses, Joshua became the leader, and led the Israelites to take the Promised Land. This was not an easy task, but God was with them. Israel was faithful to God under the leadership of Joshua.

Following the death of Joshua and his fellow leaders, Israel became rebellious against God. They served idols and lived lives of sin. God stopped protecting them, and they fell into the hands of their enemies. They were not able to conquer the entire Promised Land.

In the midst of this judgment, God showed grace and love and empowered judges to free His people from the oppressive enemy. These judges included Othniel, Ehud, Shamgar, Deborah, Gideon, Abimelech, Tola, Jair, Jephthah, Ibzan, Elon, Abdon, Samson, Eli and Samuel.

The time of the judges over Israel came to an end. The final judge of Israel was Samuel. Samuel called the people back to God and to defeat the Philistines. The Israelites lost the battle and lost the Ark of God. This was devastating to the people of God.

The people of Israel demanded that they have a king to lead them like the nations around them. God was disappointed by this rejection of His leadership but honored their request. The first king, Saul, started well but stopped following and trusting God.

David was Israel’s second king. He was a mighty warrior and poet with a true heart for God. David united the people and established the capitol city in Jerusalem. Even though David made some bad decisions, he was humble and returned to God.

Because of David’s faithfulness, God continued the line of kings with David’s son, Solomon. God visited Solomon in a dream and offered him anything he wanted. Solomon requested wisdom to lead the people. God granted Solomon’s request for wisdom, and Solomon was respected as the wisest man. Solomon built a magnificent temple for God. Israel experienced a golden age a peace and prosperity during the reign of Solomon.

Later in life, Solomon married foreign wives, turned from God, and followed foreign gods. After Solomon’s death, Israel was torn into two kingdoms. A series of bad kings led the people of Israel far from God.

God sent messengers (prophets) including Elijah, Elisha, Amos and Hosea to warn His people and try to bring them back to God. The Israelites continued to rebel against God and the kingdoms fell. God’s people again became slaves and exiles in foreign lands.

God was faithful to His people through the time of Exile. God told His people, through messengers including Isaiah and Jeremiah, of His love and promised that they would return to the Promised Land. As the messengers predicted, Babylon fell, and Cyrus, king of Persia, proclaimed that the Israelites could return to Jerusalem and rebuild the temple. Isaiah also told of a great Messiah (King) that would set them free.

Haggai and Zechariah helped lead many of the Israelites back and encouraged them through the difficult and dangerous rebuilding project. Ezra led another group of Israelites back to Jerusalem and called the people to follow God. Nehemiah then returned with a group with the task of rebuilding the wall around Jerusalem. This was a dangerous task because surrounding nations were determined to keep them from completing the project.

The temple and the wall were completed, but the people were still not focused on God. Ezra decided that the best way to bring back the worship of God was to read the Book of the Law to all of the people. The people listened and returned to God.

The people of God continued to go through political and moral unrest. They waited in great expectation for the promised Messiah to come and rescue them. In God’s perfect timing, this promise was fulfilled.

God was changing everything. God with us. He would no longer visit through dreams, visions and pillars of smoke. God would walk with His people. He would teach them face-to-face. He would touch them and heal their sickness and pain. He would set them free from sin and shame.

In the beginning, God spoke the universe into existence with a word. Now God was speaking complete salvation into existence through the Word, Jesus the Son of the living God.

God changed everything through the miraculous birth of Jesus. The birth of Jesus to the virgin Mary fulfilled many of the amazing details predicted in the past by God’s messengers. God sent the Messiah into the world on a mission to bring final and complete salvation to all who believe and place their faith in Him.

Jesus started His mission as he walked the streets of Israel. Now the people walked and talked with God through Jesus. Now the people learned how to live as they listened to Jesus’ teaching and watched Him relate to those around Him. Now they were being set free from sickness, pain and evil influences in their lives. Jesus chose 12 of His followers to be apostles: Peter, James, John, Andrew, Philip, Bartholomew, Matthew, Thomas, James, Thaddaeus, Simon and Judas.

Jesus’ time of teaching and walking with His followers on earth was ending. It was time for Jesus to complete God’s mission and become the sacrifice that would cover and forgive the sins of all who believe and have faith in Him. Jesus was betrayed, crucified, and buried in a tomb. On the third day Jesus was raised to life. Jesus visited his followers and other people before ascending to heaven.

Jesus’ perfect life, death and resurrection were the rescue plan God lovingly crafted before the world was created. We see God’s amazing love, judgment and grace demonstrated in this supreme sacrificial act.

Jesus may have left His followers on earth, but He was not going to leave them alone. Jesus promised to send the Holy Spirit. Now God, through the Holy Spirit, would be with every follower of Jesus. The Holy Spirit would bring comfort, knowledge and power to help the early Christians spread the Good News of Jesus. The task of spreading the Good News to the whole world would not be easy. With the power of the Holy Spirit, the mission began.

Peter, Paul and most of the other apostles were killed for their beliefs and preaching about Jesus. One of the last remaining disciples was John. He was held prisoner on the island of Patmos. While there, God gave him an amazing vision of Jesus and revelation of things to come.

It was revealed that God will pour out a final judgment on the world. The world will follow an evil beast and false prophet empowered by Satan. Jesus will then return to earth to conquer the beast and Satan. God will hold the Great White Throne of judgment and throw Satan, the beast, the false prophet and all those not written in the Book of Life into the lake of fire.

Then God will make an amazing new heaven and new earth for His people. There will be no more sickness, tears or death. God will reign with His people forever.

Now it is your turn to take part in the story of God and His people. The same God that did all these amazing things is alive and active today. What will your story be?

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Dear Son, Words of Wisdom #10

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Dear Son,
Ask God for wisdom and courage every morning.
Love, Dad

Your mother and I have given time and effort to provide education and example to prepare you as you journey into life.  But I am left with concern because I know how unprepared we can be for the things that we face each day. Such an array of confusing choices and difficult decision.

Our only true hope is to trust in God our good shepherd. He must provide the wisdom. We can never gather enough information. We can rarely read intentions. We can’t foresee the unintended consequences. We must ask and allow God to fill in the gaps.

“If you don’t have all the wisdom needed for this journey, then all you have to do is ask God for it; and God will grant all that you need. He gives lavishly and never scolds you for asking.” James 1:5

Wisdom alone is not enough.  You will also need God to give you the courage to do what you are to do. It is one thing to know…it is another thing to do. Many of my regrets revolve around the times I had the wisdom but not the courage to act.

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

Be sure to make this a prayer every morning and a priority every day.

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